As told to Glenn Busch by Pamela ‘Judy’ Ross as part of the Christchurch documentary project, Place in Time.

COWLISHAW STREET: I took it out on him. He wasn’t even here to take it out on, but I’d go out to the cemetery and I’d curse and swear at him and say why aren’t you here to help me get through this. To cuddle me. I’m by myself and trying to do it all alone. I used to get so angry.